When you love someone, it’s important that you show them how much you care. In Disney’s Enchanted, the protagonist Giselle sings a song where she asks, “How does she know you love her? How does she know you care?”
Throughout the song, she lists ways that a man can make his love for his partner known. Whether you’ve been together for one year or fifty, it’s important to show your significant other that you care about them. Here are nine ways you can show your love.
How to show your love
1. Send a card, leave a note, or write a love letter.
Some people feel especially loved through kind words. If you know your significant other values words of affirmation, take the time to send them a card, leave them a note, or write them a love letter.
This can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be. A quick note on their nightstand letting you know you love them can be just as meaningful as a long letter declaring your love.
Even if you leave notes for them often, a loving note can show them how much you care. One special thing about notes is that they can be re-read over and over. Your loved ones can read what you’ve written whenever they need to brighten their day.
Notes are also a great option if your budget is tight. They only cost as much as the paper they’re written on, yet they communicate the value you have for your relationship.
2. Do a chore for them.
Take time out of your day to take care of an item on their to-do list. If your significant other is especially overwhelmed, this can help free up their time so they can rest.
You can take their car to get an oil change. Or you may run an errand or clean the house. If you’re doing a chore for them, make sure that you’re doing something that they might otherwise do. When you complete this task, you take a worry off of their plate.
This can be a great option for surprising your significant other, too. It’s a nice surprise to find that something on your to-do list is suddenly done!
3. Give a gift.
Gifts are a popular option for showing your love for a reason: most people love receiving gifts. Gift-giving is a big part of holidays, birthday celebrations, and romantic gestures.
If you aren’t sure what to do to show your love for someone, a thoughtful gift can often communicate your care for you. The gift you purchase doesn’t have to be the stereotypical flowers, chocolate, or jewelry. Get your significant other something that will be meaningful to them.
Is there an item that they’ve been wanting from the store? Purchase it the next time you’re at the store and use it to surprise them. Do they have a hobby they enjoy? Buy something that will help them enjoy that hobby.
If you have no idea what to get, ask your loved one what kinds of things they’d like to receive as gifts. Take note of those things and use that list to help with future surprises.
4. Go on a date.
Quality time is important for a healthy and happy relationship. Even if your date consists of getting fast food or going for a hike, it can provide you and your significant other with quality time. What’s important is that you spend time together outside of your usual routine.
If you can, take them to a restaurant they enjoy. Go see a movie or take them to the mall to go shopping. Although it’s ideal to do something you’ll both enjoy, you can show your significant other how much you care by doing something he or she wants to do.
If you’re feeling adventurous, you could go to an amusement park, try an escape room, or go zip-lining. Some couples enjoy doing adventurous things together.
Before you plan a date like this, it’s important to talk to your loved ones to make sure it’s something that would interest them. You don’t want to book a trip for skydiving, only to find out your loved one is afraid of heights!
5. Show affection.
Take time to show affection to your significant other. Showing them physical affection can help them feel loved. Hold hands, hug, kiss. What matters is that you show them affection in a way they appreciate.
Some studies have shown that hugs can improve mood, boost immunity, and provide a whole host of other benefits to you and your significant other. When you hug the person you love, you help lower the levels of stress hormones in their body.
Sometimes showing affection is as simple as being in close proximity to your loved one. Sit close together on the couch. Allow your hands to brush their back or shoulders while you cook or clean up the kitchen. Use your physical interactions to reinforce the love you have for them.
6. Keep your promises.
It’s easy to talk big. You might tell your significant other that you’ll do certain things. You might make promises to take them somewhere or do something for them. But if you don’t follow through when you say you’re going to do something, you’re damaging the trust your partner has in you.
Whether you promise something big or something small, make sure you do it. Even if you don’t use the words “I promise,” you need to make sure you’re doing the things you say you’re going to do.
It may be tempting to break your word on small things, like whether you’ll take out the trash. However, when you fail to do small things you promise to your significant other, they’re less likely to believe you when you say you’re going to do bigger things.
When you break promises, you break down the trust between you and your significant other. Trust is easy to break and hard to mend, so make sure you follow through on your commitments.
“Three things you should never break: promises, trust, and someone’s heart.”
7. Be willing to compromise.
When you’re with someone long enough, you’re bound to have disagreements. One significant way to show your love for your partner is to make compromises. Your ability to compromise tells your significant other that you care about their happiness.
You can show your love by wanting what is best for them, even if it is something you wouldn’t otherwise enjoy.
For example, you and your partner may have different tastes when it comes to eating out. One way you can compromise is by taking turns choosing what restaurant you’ll go to. When you’re willing to eat at their favorite place, you’re letting them know that you value what’s important to them.
Find ways to compromise that makes both parties happy. When a compromise can’t be reached, be willing to bend in order to make your significant other happy.
8. Try one of their hobbies.
Does your partner have a hobby that you haven’t tried? Take some time to try their favorite hobby. Let them show you what it is that they love about that hobby.
Even if you only try it one time, taking the time to try the things they love shows your significant other that you’re interested in the things that interest them.
As an added bonus, you’ll better understand what they’re talking about when they talk about their hobby with you.
You might even find that their hobby is something that you enjoy as well. When you share the same hobby with your partner, you open up more possibilities for quality time together.
9. Fight fair.
Arguments are going to happen. When they do, make sure you and your significant other fight fairs. If you’re using unkind words, manipulation, yelling, or other tactics to get your way, you aren’t fighting fairly.
Some discussions will get heated. It’s okay to get angry with your significant other, but it’s important that you don’t say or do anything in the heat of the moment that you’ll regret later on.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s more important to respect the relationship you have than to win any one argument. People have a tendency to say or do whatever it takes to win an argument when in reality this just means that both parties lose.
If you’re too worked up to productively argue, ask your significant other if it’s okay to revisit the argument later. When you both have some time to cool down, you’re more likely to come to a solution that will work for both of you.
You’re allowed to express anger, frustration, and disappointment toward your partner. However, you need to make sure that you are expressing those feelings in a way that isn’t damaging to the relationship. Don’t say something you’ll regret later on.
It’s important to show your significant other that you love him or her. These nine ideas are just a starting place for you to show them your love. When you take the time to invest in it, your relationship can blossom.