Sometimes making someone you love happy comes naturally. Little ideas pop into your mind during the day, and you use those ideas to brighten your day.
Other times, though, coming up with ideas on how to make someone happy can be really difficult. And that’s perfectly okay. There are times when we need inspiration. Below are ten ways you can make someone you love happy.
How to Make Someone You Love Happy
1. Compliment them.
Never underestimate the power of a sincere compliment!
Take the time to tell them something you might have otherwise left unsaid. You can tell them that they look really good or compliment them on the way that they sing. The exact compliment does not matter as much as the sincerity behind it.
“Everybody likes compliment.”
– Abraham Lincoln
2. Express your gratitude for everything they do.
When life gets busy, it’s easy to forget to express gratitude. Take some time to thank your loved one for everything he or she does. You can leave a note, send a card, or tell them verbally how much they mean to you.
All too often, we overlook the everyday things that people do for us. If your loved one is someone you live with, take note of the things they do to help around the house.
Thank them for those easily overlooked things. For example, you could thank them for the way they always take out the trash or thank them for cooking meals. When you express gratitude, your loved one will feel seen and appreciated.
“No one who achieves success does so without the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude.”
– Alfred North Whitehead
3. Prepare or purchase a meal they love.
Food makes just about everything better! If your loved one had a stressful day, you can brighten it by providing their favorite meal for dinner.
It doesn’t matter if you cook the meal or order takeout. That really depends on your skill level in the kitchen and personal preference. What matters is that you’re thinking of your loved one and looking to give them a meal they will genuinely enjoy.
Planning a meal can be a surprise, or you can plan it with your loved one. While surprises can be fun to plan, it may help to have your loved one’s input on meal plans, especially if there’s a chance they’d eat before you have the chance to surprise them.
4. Encourage them.
Everyone needs encouragement from time to time. If your loved one is dealing with stress or coping with a loss, take time to encourage them. Let them know that they have someone they can depend on.
My closest friend and I share everything. Whenever one of us is going through a particularly difficult time, the other one says, “You can do hard things!” Even when I know that’s going to be her response, it’s comforting to know that she believes in my ability to get through hard things.
Even if your loved one isn’t going through a hard time, they may still need encouragement. Let them know what a great job they’re doing and encourage them to keep going. Your encouragement may be the thing that makes them happy.
“A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.”
5. Complete a task from their to-do list.
One way you can make your loved one happy is to take care of a chore on their to-do list. Whether you take care of some cleaning around the house, cook a meal, or run an errand, taking care of a task frees them up for some relaxation.
This can be especially meaningful if you tackle a task you know is stressing him or her out. For example, if your loved one dislikes doing grocery shopping, you could take their shopping list and shop for them.
Completing a task from your loved one’s to-do list is also a great way to show them that you’re listening to them and know what their needs are. If your spouse vents to you about how stressful his or her to-do list is, helping them with those tasks will be more meaningful than mere words of encouragement.
6. Just listen.
Sometimes all your loved one needs is a safe space to vent about their frustrations. After they’ve had the opportunity to talk to you about everything on their mind, their mood may be significantly improved.
It’s important that you make space to just listen. You may be tempted to give them advice, but you should resist that urge. After they’ve finished venting, ask them if there’s anything you can do to help. Only then should you offer advice (and only if they specifically asked for it).
No one likes unsolicited advice. There are times when face-to-face communication isn’t possible. If this is the case and you’re communicating with your loved one through text or instant messages, make sure that they know that you’re reading their messages and care about what is being said.
You can “just listen” even when you’re not in the same room as them.
“There’s a lot of difference between listening and hearing.”
– G. K. Chesterton
7. Give a gift.
One easy way to bring a smile to your loved one’s face is to purchase a gift for them. The gift doesn’t have to be big. In fact, my favorite gift I’ve ever gotten from my husband was a $4 bottle of bubble bath.
That may seem like a strange gift to remember so well, but I remember how thoughtful it was. My feet and back were frequently sore after work, so he purchased a bubble bath that had oils to help with soreness. He knew about my specific need and purchased something to meet that need.
Thoughtful gifts will help your loved one feel seen. When you gift something that meets a particular need, it lets your loved one know that you’ve been listening and that you care enough to give them something to help with their need.
Even if your loved one doesn’t have a specific need that a gift can help with, gifts can be a source of happiness. Purchase something that you know they’ll love. While flowers and chocolate are frequently gifted, you can also purchase something related to one of their hobbies or an item you know they’ve been eyeing.
8. Go out and do something together.
Take some time to go out and do something together. You can go to dinner, go shopping, see a movie, or go for a hike. It doesn’t matter as much what you do. What matters is that you’re doing it together.
This doesn’t have to be limited to dates between romantic partners. Your loved one may be a parent, a sibling, or a close friend. Taking the time to invest in your non-romantic relationships is just as important. When you spend time with your loved ones, they can enjoy having you around as a friend.
When possible, travel somewhere nearby. It’s easy to do the same things and go to the same places. If you have time and ability, drive to the next town over and try a new restaurant or go shopping in a store you don’t have near home.
Getting away from the stresses at work and home can help boost your loved one’s mood. It will feel special because it’s different than what you do every day.
9. Ask them what they need from you.
One way you can make someone you love happy is to ask them what they need from you. Most importantly, when you ask them what they need from you, you should be ready to do it.
Sometimes our best intentions miss the mark. If you send your loved one flowers when what they really need is help around the house, your gift may not have the impact you hoped it would have.
They’ll probably appreciate the flowers, but taking the time out of your day to help with a need of theirs will make them feel truly seen. While you can probably make an educated guess about what your loved one needs from you, there’s no replacement for asking them what it is they need from you.
Once they’ve voiced a need, do your best to fulfill that need. If you commit to doing something for your loved one, failing to do so can result in lost trust.
10. Spend quality time together.
Sometimes the best way to make someone you love happy is to spend quality time with him or her. Take time to talk, play board games, watch a movie, play video games, or do anything else that you both enjoy.
Whether you do something at home or out, what matters is that you’re doing something that allows you and your loved one to spend quality time together. A lot of families make the commitment to eat dinner together at the dinner table each night.
This quality time allows them to discuss their days and enjoy each other’s company. If you and your loved one live in the same home and have schedules that allow regular meal times, this can be a great way to get quality time together.
Spending time in different areas of a business and making time to understand how everyone fits together is incredibly beneficial.
“Spending time in different areas of a business and making time to understand how everyone fits together is incredibly beneficial.”
– Holly Branson
It’s important to do things that will make the people you love happy. Whether they’re going through a hard time or just going through life, your thoughtful acts of kindness can bring a smile to their face.
Don’t wait until your loved one is unhappy to do things to show your love and appreciation. Make sure that your loved one always feels loved and appreciated.